By Gicaniro I Will
Just like charisma, good looks are either natural or artificially induced. Some people have that look of the sun, glowing and beautiful no matter the time of day. Whether they’ve showered or not, whether they’ve just got from bed or come from a party, whether they are wearing designer clothes or rugs, rich or poor, educated or illiterate.
These are the naturals of beauty. They are born with it. Socially, people are attracted to each other primarily by good looks. If the person looking at you thinks you are pretty or cute, they’ll be attracted to you. If the person looking at you thinks you’re ugly, the chances of them becoming attracted to you
are none.
But who cares if people are attracted to you or not? Well, you should. Life happens at many levels, one of them being the emotional level. If people don’t feel good about you, they shut down all the borders
you share. Thus, it would be best if you worked on your looks.
You don’t have to look like the picture of a model in the ads, but at least try to look good above the minimum. Unless you’re a natural at good looks, some things give you away as ugly. One of them is wearing ugly clothes, which make you look shabby and unapproachable. The other one is wearing unmatching colors that make you look backward. If you’re average at good looks, choose the colors of your clothes diligently.
One more thing to remember, wear clothes that have an expensive feel on them. The last thing people want to see is an ugly face in cheap ugly clothes. The good thing about being natural at good looks is that it doesn’t really matter the clothes you put on, whether expensive or cheap, knitted by hand or designed overseas, everything looks stylistic and good on them. Which is quite the opposite with average good-looks.
There’s how you look naturally, and there’s how you can make yourself look. This is style. Having a good style in fashion means you know which colors go where and which ones don’t; it means you know what the weather is and the clothes to match it with; it means you are wearing clothes that bring the best out of you and make you shine bright like a diamond, just lovely and adorable.
In communication, good style means that your tone of voice is not too loud, not too low but rather calm and deep. Still, it’s knowing when to raise your voice and when to lower it depending on the situation.
It means using body language in a way that makes you look believable and intelligent.
Some people’s body language is so off and ugly, that they become primary suspects a few minutes into their witness testimony. It also means how you control your eye contact. Some people don’t even know how to look at others, they just stare at them like freaks, not caring to blink for minutes. Imagine someone looking at you that long without blinking. You begin developing negative emotions like fear, doubt, worry, anxiety, and paranoia.
Try not to freak out people, with your tone of voice, the choice of your clothes, your body language, and certainly not with your weird non-blinking stare. When talking remember to pause and catch your breath, it’s a conversation after all, not a spelling competition.
A good style does not contradict people’s tastes and preferences, it does not stand out as rebellious to standard cultural and ethical norms, and it tries not to be out of this world. You don’t want to show up anywhere on Earth wearing planet Mars clothes, that’s being a weirdo, not futuristic.
Avoid making yourself look like what everybody knows you’re not. That’s a red flag for most people. Once they spot you pretending to be what they know you are not through talk or fashion, they will turn their
backs and look the other way.
You might argue that you’ve got the freedom to look however you please. Well, that’s not accurate because how you look in public must align with how you are supposed to look according to public
standards. Otherwise, forget winning at networking, teamwork, collaboration, partnership, admiration, etc.
Just as with charisma you avoid hatred, with good looks avoid looking ugly, weirdo, freaky, or out of place by all means necessary. Standing out is good, but not beyond acceptable standards. This is not asking you to conform, but rather, encouraging you to win.
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