By Gicaniro I Will
There can be something about a person that makes others like them by default. Charismatic people often have successful first impressions. Just set your eyes on them, you don’t want to take them off. And when
they start talking, you pause to listen to what they’ve to say.
Such people have a celebrity Ola around them. In the eyes of other people, they’re never ordinary. They seem mysterious yet approachable. Smart yet cool. Serious yet funny. Successful yet simple. And it is this
exact contrast they carry that triggers the curiosity in others and keeps them hooked. Some may have been born with it. They just have it from birth. Have you seen babies people avoid picking up or playing with?
Well, they’re there. On the other hand, there are these adorable cute babies or kids everyone cannot pass without fooling around with. Usually, this natural charisma is caused by the unique amazing features a baby or a kid has on their face, unique cognitive abilities like eloquence and good memory, and sometimes all the natural charisma around a baby or a kid can be purely circumstantial. A baby born from popular parents is liked by most people. The reverse is true.
The same way natural charisma is obtained and plays out for babies and kids is true with adults. Adults with unique body features, amazing cognitive abilities, and great talent, tend to be naturally charismatic. Also, the circumstantial factor plays out for them, like coming from popular, or wealthy families.
Nevertheless, apart from it coming to you by default, every person has the potential to develop their own charism artificially. To find out what you can do to develop charisma on your own, keep in mind what its natural twin looks like and then replicate it. You’ll know you got it when you begin to draw desirable attention.
You might not have great talent but you can be known for high-level performance which gives you influence over your colleagues. You might not be naturally beautiful with a sweet face but you can still wear fascinating fashion.
Artificial charisma can be simply built on a need-to-situation basis. If there’s a need in your environment and you can find a solution to fulfill it, automatically you become influential. Becoming a pioneer in new things makes you influential as well.
The point here is that people can like you for a million reasons, try and get one. Avoiding being on the wrong side of people’s wishes and desires, alone makes you likable. Unlike natural charisma which makes a person both likable and loved, artificial charisma gives you influence over others even when they don’t really like you, while at the same time putting you beyond the possibility of hatred.
Therefore, if you are not a natural at it, let those born with it be loved, while you try to be liked, and avoid being avoided.
The importance of charisma is almost dismissable yet powerful due to the fact that people only like to do things they like and love. In the same way, people like to do things with people they like or love. This is
where charisma steps in to give you a free ticket into people’s hearts and later on into their minds.
That’s the way it works, first, you get into people’s hearts then later on, into their minds. And that’s only if after being tested by their feelings you haven’t been found wanting.
Human relationships are an emotional matter, rationality comes in later after the judgment has been passed and the verdict has been read to the defendant you are.
Point to ponder: whenever you are in a group, make sure you’re someone important. Lack of importance among people is a disqualifying factor for charisma. If you’re not useful in that situation, how can you
stand out and shine?
Within a group, you want to be the guy who possesses special useful skills, someone the group needs to make progress.
Be a little mysterious to keep people curious about you; let them wonder how you do what you do so well, how you manage the difficult tasks, and how you cope and adapt despite the unbearable challenges.
Avoid being the boring one, the disgusting one, the talkative, the gossip, the shy one, the lazy, the ignorant, the loser, and all those negative things no one likes.
Mind your company, you can be so many great things on your own but if the people you surround yourself with are not adored so will you.
As a matter of fact, the moment people see you around people they don’t like, they begin to distrust you and doubt you. Distrust can quickly become hatred, yet hatred is something you must avoid by all means
necessary. It leads to a total crash.
You cannot sell when hated, you cannot buy at good prices when hated, you cannot work and perform well when hated, you cannot enjoy your neighborhood when hated, you cannot be free when hated, and you can’t be secure when hated. Try to remember this and you’ll go far.
The opposite of charisma, hatred, brings with it absolute failure. Avoid it like a plague, and quarantine yourself if you must – you’d rather isolate yourself from bad influence than be aboard a sinking ship full
of overweight friends who care less about lifejackets.