By Gicaniro I Will
Have you ever wondered what was going on in the mind of a girl who got an unwanted pregnancy from
her boyfriend or stranger in a one-night stand?
What was she thinking? Was she out of her mind?
Here is where it gets tricky, the same girl often gets the same unwanted pregnancy for the second time!
Sometimes from the same guy! It’s probably from the same exact spot! How is that even possible?
How can you fall in the exact place twice? Yet every time, it hurts! It makes you hate yourself so much!
What is the cause of repetition of bad choices, and decisions?
Why do people keep making the same mistake over again? Could something be wrong with their mindset? Are some wires in their brain not plugged in well? Or is it perhaps a natural weakness? Genes, maybe?
Well, before you can truly understand why people repeat mistakes over again, you’ve to first
understand the process through which choices and decisions are made. You also have to know the
difference between choices and decisions.
What is the difference between choices and decisions? Simply, decisions are a mental approval
of already made choices.
Choices are mental favorable preferences of a person. Note; choices are
formed first, while decisions come in later to approve them. A choice by itself doesn’t have the power to launch a person into action until given a green light by a decision.
A decision evaluates, weighs, and measures between available choices to determine the most suitable one for you. In case there are no choices to deliberate upon, your decision system easily approves the only available choice in your mind. If none at all, the decision system taps into ongoing feelings for a clue. Obviously, not good because feelings are greatly influenced by external factors.
For a person to be able to make good decisions, they must have more than one good choice in place
before their decision system can deliberate upon which one is best suitable for them. The question remains, why do we make bad choices, and allow our decision system to approve them?
Well, it is because choices unlike decisions are predetermined long before the actual action takes place. Whereas decisions can be made on the spot, choices are made way before so that decisions always have something to approve.
From here it can be easy to figure out how to make good decisions and therefore good choices. First
and foremost, take time and make your choices about different things, especially things you’ll be
doing or need in the near future.
For example; if you’re planning to go to the nightclub this weekend, and it’s on Thursday, take at
least 10 minutes and make choices about what you will and won’t do on the weekend at the nightclub.
If you say to yourself, “I won’t kiss any man on that night, I won’t go home with any man on that night, I
won’t be in a corner with any man on that night because of abc reasons” when that night comes, and
a man happens to try to kiss you, your decision-making system will command you to stop him.
While you were forming choices last Thursday, you also gave reasons as to why you did or did not want
to do certain things. These reasons become the measurement point of your decision-making system.
At that moment when the man is trying to get you to kiss, your decision-making system weighs both the
choice you made not to kiss him, and the reasons you gave for not wanting to kiss anyone on that
night, then a deliberation is made, and a verdict is read which you then act out.
Sometimes, even when you programmed yourself not to do something, you end up doing it. Why?
Mostly because the reasons you gave for not doing it were not strong enough to outweigh your natural
need for it.
To conclude on this point, always make your choices long before the anticipated activity, and care
to give strong reasons for them within your mind. When the time for a decision comes, at the peak of
the moment, your decision-making system will judge based on the ongoing activity, your predetermined choices, and the reasons supporting them.
When choosing, start by avoiding the bad, and the worst things, automatically, the good, and the best
appear.
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